You know what pisses me off? Seeing tutorials and skin care vids of women with beat faces sparingly applying mask products to their face. As if they are completely unaware that the skin around their brows, mouth and eyes also needs to be tended to. After providing these women with one too many views, I have decided that I will begin a weekly Periscope broadcast featuring myself and some of my fav masks and other products. Those tuning in will be able to ask me health, beauty and wellness questions. So you’ve got a week to download the app and follow. Can’t wait to see you there!
Not into livestreams and such? No problem! I’ll bring the best questions, suggestions and ideas here for your consumption.
I have big lips. I have a big mouth. I have big teeth. I love them.
Like most things that people consider flaws, I was not aware that the nether regions of my face were larger than normal until people ridiculed me for it. There was always a joke being told about how my lips poked out or how my two front teeth made me resemble Bugs Bunny. Older women would always tell me that I would have no need for lipstick (or high heels because I’m tall) when I grew up. As a kid, things like that weigh on you. You somehow become convinced that looking different and being different is synonymous with being wrong in some way. For a long time, I believed there was something wrong with me. I shied away from makeup and anything that I thought would make my lips more noticeable.
In 2011, I saw a Youtube video by a young black girl who, like myself, had huge lips. They were round and seemed to have a personality of their own. They added character to her face. They seemed to be in perfect coordination with the sound of her accent. Although we looked nothing alike, I saw myself in her. The title of the video was Are Your Lips TOO BIG!?. Her name is Jaleesa Jaikaran and til this day it is the best lipstick tutorial for ladies with lucious lips that I have ever seen! In it she makes fun of the things that women with plump pallets often say about why they stay away from bright colors or lipstick in general. She also has a point in which she says “this is the way you were made”. That was enough to inspire me!
Afterwards, I tried my very hardest to recreate her effortless and flawless lipstick application. I worked to find neutral colors that made me feel comfortable but the only ones I was really drawn to were always bold and shiny. I simply couldn’t deny myself! LOL! Its been years of practing, purchasing and a few (hundred) pep talks to leave the house with a wild color that I know people will stare at all day long. I am grateful to Ms. Jaleesa and her wisdom.My lips are usually the focal point of my face. They pull together my makeup and make me feel extraordinarily beautiful. I love when they shine. I love when people take a second look at me because my new color caught their attention. It’s my own little way of playing dressup every day!
Anyone who knows me knows I love a good (or bad) crop top in the summer. Something about the hot sun beating down on my brown belly just makes me feel… powerful lol. One day, while riding in the elevator of my mother’s building, a neighbor (an older black woman) looked at my bare stomach and asked “Please tell me how you get your stomach flat like that!”. Me being the shy and goody ass person I am grins and tells her the truth “I don’t eat meat, try to stay away from processed foods, don’t eat much dairy, and drink lots of water”. She looked extremely disappointed. As if she wanted me to tell her which brand of SkinnyTea and waist trainer I wore. Her response was a dry “See that’s too much! I love my chicken and pork too much.” That women went on to die of a heart attack that very same evening. I’m lying. She’s probably still alive eating fried chicken with her bonnet on as we speak. That is neither here nor there.
To me, self care is equivalent to self love. The method(s) by which you care for the vessel that is your body says a lot about what you think about yourself and your own purpose. For example, if you believe your purpose is to be a runner, you will train and nourish your body in a manner that allows you to be the most efficient runner on the track. Bring to mind a purpose for your own body. What is it that you could do to prepare yourself for that purpose?
My point is, if you want to be the best version of yourself, there are no shortcuts. All of the work must be done from the inside out because life/change occurs in that very same motion. All change begins in the mind. My personal approach to beauty is the very same: from the inside out. Here, I will be sharing and exploring with you the world of beauty through some new and some old trends/traditions. You can ask me questions about anything (even if its not related to beauty). I’ll be sharing some of my favorite routines and products with you as well 🙂